All Out

A Father and Son Confront the Hard Truths That Made Them Better Men

Publisher: Random House Canada
Can a man with a demanding job really be a good father? All Out is a bracingly honest answer from Emmy and Gemini Award-winning anchorman Kevin Newman and his grown son, Alex. Confessional and provocative, their memoir is also a touching meditation on ambition, absence and family that will resonate with every parent and child who've ever struggled to connect and understand each other. 
     
Kevin Newman wanted to be a family man in an era when fathers are expected to be more engaged than ever before; he also wanted to reach the top of a profession that demands 24/7 commitment. The higher he climbed, the more irreconcilable those aspirations seemed. Meanwhile, his artistic, solitary son, Alex, was wrestling with his own competing ambitions: to be the sporty, popular son his dad wanted, and to be true to himself. Paradoxically, their attempts to live up to expectations--their own, and each other's--were driving them apart. Then, two parallel identity crises forced a reckoning. Kevin reached the summit of American network television, becoming co-host of Good Morning America--where he was instructed to develop a "quarterback" persona and change his accent, mannerisms, personality, hairstyle and everything else that made him Kevin. At the same time, Alex was realizing he was gay, but frantically trying to mask and change that fact. Both felt like failures and hungered for one another's approval, but didn't know how to bridge their differences. Today, a decade later, they retrace their steps (and missteps) to reinventing their relationship and becoming one another's role models for what it means to be a man in our culture. All Out is a moving chronicle of all the ways that fathers and sons misunderstand and disappoint one another--and a powerful reminder that they can become closer not despite their differences, but because of them.

PRAISE FOR

“The raw honesty that Kevin and Alex Newman have brought to their memoir, All Out, helped me to better see and understand the inevitably vast gap between father and son, as well as the strength of the bond. This book made me think, smile, frown, close my eyes, and hope to do a better job in the future as a father. A must read.” —Chris Hadfield
 
“This is more than just a coming out story. It’s much bigger than that. In this surprising and searingly honest tale, Kevin and Alex Newman confront the fearful gulf that often separates fathers and sons in public and private. The journey across that divide is really the journey to becoming a complete person. I couldn’t help but cheer for them as they made the crossing.” —Charles Montgomery, author of the bestselling Happy City
 
“A wildly entertaining memoir, told from two very different perspectives, that explores ‘how to’ and ‘how not to’ navigate the complicated relationship between father and son. Charming, funny, touching and raw. I loved this book.” —Rick Mercer
 
“Kevin Newman’s emotional honesty devastated me. What makes him a great journalist is that he’s not willing to let the truth off the hook. What makes him a great father is that he’s not willing to let himself off the hook. This is a powerful father-son story that challenges stereotypes of what it means to be a man and what it means to be a parent. I loved it.” —Elaine Lui
 
“Kevin Newman, one of Canada’s great journalists, looks within and opens up to tell his own story with unflinching honesty. In a unique writing partnership with his son, Alex, each man reveals his own painful secrets in a book that proves the cut-throat world of TV network news isn’t remotely as challenging as navigating the unexpected curveballs of family life. This is an important, sensitive and brave journey through the parallel lives of this father and son. On one level, it’s a help book for parents and their kids; on another, it provides fascinating insight into the real side of TV news where the glamour is short and the hours are long. Kevin and Alex Newman each confront and ultimately conquer what confuses and scares them—and all of us.” —Lisa LaFlamme
 
“Trust always takes courage which makes this a brave book—a product of deep mutual trust between a father and a son, members of a family, a high-profile journalist and a huge following of people who believe they know and understand him. In All Out Kevin Newman and his courageous family allow themselves to be reconsidered in the context of one of the most complex human dramas of our time. Bravo Kevin, Cathy, Alex, Erica.” —Linden MacIntyre, author of Punishment, Why Men Lie and The Bishop’s Man

“As a public figure, you learn to guard your privacy. I’m grateful Kevin Newman didn’t, because his willingness to be vulnerable is going to change lives. This courageous book is a must-read for any parent.” —Arlene Dickinson, bestselling author of Persuasion and former star of Dragon's Den

“As a son, father and husband All Out was like reading my own story. Generations of men have defined themselves by how well they provide, protect, and guide their children. Kevin and Alex Newman were forced to find a deeper connection, or face losing each other and themselves. This is a groundbreaking book for accomplished and driven men (and women!) struggling to have it all.” —Jody Mitic, military sniper, Amazing Race finalist, author of Unflinching

“Whether you’re attempting to strengthen the connection within a father-son relationship or searching for answers to the masculinity conundrum—Kevin and Alex provide a revealing perspective on the male experience that men open to the conversation need to read. There’s a NEWMAN-liness in town—and it’s ALL OUT.” —Shea Emry, two-time Grey Cup champion Linebacker and current Saskatchewan RoughRider