Hold On to Your Kids
Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
This parenting classic on one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time--peers replacing parents in the lives of children--is now more relevant than ever. The latest edition includes new material on how social media and video game culture are affecting our children, and what parents can do.
In Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Maté explore the phenomenon of peer orientation: the troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction--for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident--as do the solutions.
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Chapter One: In Our Own Backyard
Something has changed. We can sense it, can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please...
"With simple ideas and steps, this book is directed not only to parents, but to all those--educators, social workers, counsellors--whose lives and work bring them into contact with children."
—Quill & Quire
"May serve as a loud wake-up call for mothers and fathers.... Offers what many of the others do not--that rare commodity known as common sense."
—Winnipeg Free Press
"Beautifully written...terrific, poignant."
—Publishers Weekly (starred review)